When I finally found "me" and knew what I wanted for myself, the message was clear and the confusion was gone.  The universe is always loving and supporting us, if only we could do the same for ourselves.  It is like asking the waitress for a salad but inside you hate veggies. Your husband says you have gained some weight, so you have a salad to please him. Inside, you want a toasted cheese sandwich with tomato soup because it makes you feel warm inside. Your grandmother made it for you when you didn't feel well on a cold and rainy day. You look outside and think to your self "I really need to be nurtured today." Instead of following your heart, you give yourself away. You get the salad, eat it and when asked what you want to do today you say "it doesn't matter." Inside your head you say "I just want to go home curl up in bed and read a good book." Instead you end up at the mall looking for a big screen t.v. Go home and spend hours sitting around mesmerized by fast food commercials, and in a month, end up going up a size.

2. Ask for what you want, and let it go. 

Synchronicity comes when you know what you want! Lets redo that last scenario. You order what you want and after eating it you feel so good that you go home find a good book and read it on a blustery day. As you read the book you get an "ah ha" moment! You remember that your grandmother used to love gardening and she always seemed so fit. The next day you read a book on gardening, and decide to plant one of your own. Months go by and you find yourself outside enjoying yourself all summer. Fall comes and not only have you lost weight and feel healthier but you love eating your own veggies because they taste better!

3. Pay attention and notice reoccurring messages.

Books that open to the right page, songs that sing the songs that speak to you and people talking about what you were jus thinking of at that moment. They usually come in threes.

4. Act when the light is green!

Spend time with you! Ask yourself what do I want for me? When you place your order with the Universe sit back and relax knowing that you are being heard. Would you follow the waitress into the kitchen to make sure your food was being prepared? Go about your business but be conscious and take notice, remembering to pay attention. Wait for the coincidences to start speaking to you. When you get the "three strikes you are in" phenomenon, act without hesitation. Here is one of my examples:

I really disliked my job and doing it was breaking my spirit! I asked the Universe to help me find a job that I loved and that would help other people. At the time, I was dating a man who said I would be a great hypnotherapist, I had no clue what that was. I said "If I get a synchronicity I will look into it." The next day I received a newsletter from my favorite bookstore and in the event section it said there was a meeting for hypnotherapists for $5, everyone welcome. I thought for a second and said "it is only $5, why not." I went alone, and when I walked in, I recognized the first person I saw. Years ago I had taught aerobics with the woman in front of me, and I hadn't seen her for years. She was now a hypnotherapist and immediately introduced me to the man that would be my teacher for the next year. The irony of this event is that she ended up marrying my husband and I, the man who said I would be a great hypnotherapist. All of these events and coincidences were stepping stones leading me in the direction I wanted to go. I allowed the universe lead the way and then acted on the information I was given through synchronicity.

Results of acting on synchronicity:

7. Ask for what you want and let it go.